Nov 30 2009
I am responsible for Sufferings and Peace in my life -1
I am responsible for Sufferings and Peace in my life -1
Being Other Oriented vs Other oriented
All sufferings and pain that I experience in my life is part of Ignorance.
Ignorance is unconsciousness. Unconsciousness is part of cosmic ignorance that entered into us at the time of our evolution from animal to human beings.
When I say and experience that
• I have pain
• You are responsible for my pain and sorrow
• You have cheated me and created chaos in my life.
• You are responsible for my failure
The other oriented vs self oriented
Our mind is other oriented. This “other oriented” is the cause of all problems and sufferings in life. As we are searching Happiness and Peace outside our frame. It cannot be attained in life. This “other oriented” created a vicious circle in the mind that stops going within. This mind stops becoming aware and even if it becomes aware, it always becomes aware with reference to either pain or the event or person or conditions.
As long as one does not become self-oriented, one cannot become aware of oneself, deep within. Discovery cannot take place and ignorance will continue forever. That is why even after understanding intellectually, we deceive our intellect and start holding responsible people, events outside for our sufferings and pain and sorrows in life
Who is actually responsible? How –contemplate, Reflect and become aware
1. I live with you. You live in your own way and I live with my own. You are attracted with me. this attraction has come from unconsciousness. I never worked with this attraction. I never created this in my being, mind, or intellect. I consider it natural that has come from within me and I get attracted.
2. You are attracted to me but I am not. I am aware and consider this attraction as part of evolution in life. I had seen, experienced this attraction during the course of my evolution. I understand it and consider your attraction to me as part of your own evolution. But you feel as if I also attracted towards you. But this is not true. However, your conclusion came from I being the passive observer and Seer.
3. You move into this attraction and I make you aware of this attraction in life. However, you conclude again from your unconsciousness that I agreed and give consent to your attraction. Instead of meditating and reflecting upon this attraction, your unconscious mind is moving in attraction. There comes the social problem.
4. You are attracted and I create a moral wall around myself and tell you that nothing like attraction works in my life. Morally I am right, but spiritually I am wrong in life. Morally right because, I have followed the social laws and ignored to evolve you further. While ignoring, I have considerations of fear that society will not accept this attraction even when I am not for it. I do not want unconscious attraction to work in your life too. That is how spirituality becomes wrong in the society. That is why many people chosen the path to go into solitude and do not work in the society. Nevertheless, if they work, they have to face these challenges. These challenges becomes problem at social level even when spiritual awareness is never polluted.
Awakening is an answer
1. Awakening from attraction is an answer and only answer. If you are awakened, I become a good teacher, and if you are not awakened, you blame me, held me responsible for all your sorrows and sufferings in life.
2. When you are awakened, you become free and independent of attraction. This attraction is replaced by humility, peace, awareness and energy deep within. Because awakened mind moves in humility and peace, I become a great teacher. But when you are not awakened, I become a bad teacher and you hold me responsible for all your sufferings. How that is possible. Nevertheless, society makes this responsible to a person who has done nothing, who has never been attracted. I am simply moving in peace and awareness and in being passive, working upon you so that you get awakened. This passivity is again considered as problem as it becomes a strong tool for your mind to move into the unconsciousness and you become other oriented and held me responsible for your sufferings in life.
Examples in my life
3. I had many of these events in life but mentor says , “WALK ON” and transcend all of them. I asked one of my students to get married to one woman. After 10 years, woman came back to me and said,” How come you thought and allowed this guy(his husband) to marry me. He is stupid and made my life hell.” I listened to her talking for over an hour. When she calmed down, I asked her,” why did she come after 10 years and complaining against his (his husband) now. You did not come in the beginning of your married life as you were unconsciously enjoying physical relationship. You discovered that your husband is passionately busy in his work , and that too for you but you always wanted to pursue the life of cravings’ and passion. He changed from being a physical to mental person. He has become mature. But you consider this maturity as he lost all the attraction for you. You also experience that there is no emotional relationship as you are still pursuing your physical cravings from him. You are living consciously and he has started living consciously now and contemplates that life is much more than physical relationship. He knows that existence stands on integration of physical, emotional, mental, social, and spiritual layers but you are still a physical person and never thinks and moves beyond it. How long you think you will continue to have physical relationship with him. When you will have no strength, still, you will want to live with excitements by drugs and other medications. You sit at home and do nothing except daily works of cooking and washing and other physical works. Your consciousness is very involved into body and does not want to come out of it. It is imprisoned in the body. The Sanskrit name of animal is “pashu” meaning imprisoned. How long you will remain animal, as you have already seen the physical relationship now for over 10 years. You need to move on, evolve to being an emotional and mental person so that relationship will and can be given a new , fresh meaning.” She was listening to me patiently and but tears have started coming down from her eyes. She was drying up her tears but constantly looking into my eyes. I further said to her,” there is a choice with you – to live with him but start evolving from today. Do whatever you want to do for your evolution but evolve into emotional dn mental person that always keeps an eye on the progress. Progress is change. Change means rising above the physical consciousness. Set your goal to change until you discover the love for him. Change until you feel attraction for him again but beyond physical. Change until you discover peace and harmony within you. Change until you discover that you have found new meaning to life. This is yoga and spirituality in life.” After few months , she came back again . I saw smile on her face. She said to me ,” I was totally unconsciousness about me and my husband when I came to you. Now when I succeeded in dropping my unconsciousness even a bit, I discovered that my husband is doing his best in life not only for me but also for him. He is a fine person with caring heart and sharp head. He is the same but my perception has changed about me only because I set a goal to change in my life as told by you.” They both wanted to touch my feet but I held them in my arms. They both hugged me and tears started flowing out of their eyes. I said to them, “ this is just the beginning , you both now work and start meditation until you discover that you are both evolving together and there is nothing that causes any concern against each other.” They looked at me and left the house with peace and harmony. This couple lives in India. they have two beautiful kids. They have beautiful home and ever increasing wealth. They enjoy. Anyhow, they have also not forgotten me as they both talk to me every week for an hour as they feel that it evolves them both. I am aware they are still attracted to me as I am still moving in the same way I was moving towards them over 10 years ago. What relationship you name between them and me. Did I change? But they claim that I did not change but they are evolving. Everything changes in life with a touch of spiritual consciousness.
To be continued …………………………………………………….